"The problem is not (compulsory) celibacy, but the way celibacy is lived out"

c.f.  "The problem is not alcohol being available at the school dance, but the way the teenagers use it"

c.f. "The problem is not matches on the floor of the kindergarten, but the way the children play with them"

c.f. "The problem is not the polluted river, but the way people use the river"

= "The problem is not the problem"